To be or not to be (encouraged)? By Brendan Conboy
Image of someone holding the word 'ENCOURAGE' made from Scrabble letters, by RachH from Pixabay
"By words we learn thoughts, and by thoughts we learn life."
—Jean Baptiste Girard
"Colours fade, temples
crumble, empires fall, but wise words endure."
—Edward Thorndike
I supported thousands of young people during my 30 years as a youth worker. One such person was Linda. A teacher told her, in front of her peer group, that she would never amount to much. This one comment held her back, and two years after leaving school, I helped her to confront that teacher. After that, she never looked back.
My school years were not the best, and I often had teachers tell me things similar to Linda. I attended Marling Grammar School and recently joined the Old Marlingtonians Facebook group. This was my first post on the group page.
Dear Marling School, sorry I didn't amount to much at school and left in 1976 with few qualifications. I did, however, go on to complete an apprenticeship in mechanical engineering, run my own business, employ several people, become an awarded youth worker, set up a charity, learn an instrument, record and perform on stage and finally write and publish 16 books. I may not have achieved at school but getting kicked out inspired me to do better. I now share my story in the hope that it encourages others.
I received an unexpected, tremendous response to this post. The
most inspiring came from someone who became a Christian last Easter (2024) and
is now reading my ‘Book of PSALMS in Rhyme’ during his morning walks. Wow! That
comment lifted me so much – Words are powerful.
Some may know that I was a Christian rap artist for 25 years.
Nearly 35 years ago, I recorded two albums. Friends listened to them, but never
commented, either way. With my techie knowledge now, I was able to remaster and
release one track (more on the way) to all major download sites. Though this
song hasn’t had thousands of streams, people have commented positively about
it. Their words lift me more than they realise.
Listen
to the song on Spotify here.
I am off now to visit a young friend who is currently a
patient in a mental health facility. He has just started to write, after I
encouraged him to do so. He has asked me for some tips and feedback. I feel so privileged
to be able to do this.
How can you encourage others?
Brendan
Conboy aka Half Man Half Poet is
the author of 16 published books including two fascinating
autobiographies, The Golden Thread and I'm Still VALUED. In
1986, Brendan invited Jesus into his life and God blessed him with the gift of
rhyming words. He used that gift as a Christian Rap artist for 25 years
and has written 6 poetry books including the entire Book of Psalms in
Rhyme. He has 3 published novels - Issues, Invasion of the
Mimics and Legacy of the Mimics. He is the creator of Book Blest
Thanks for this, Brendan. So encouraging! It's so sad how people's negative words can crush us and hold us back from achieving our God-given potential. Thank you for spurring your fellow writers on to encourage and support others in discovering their gifts.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Philippa, we all need to encourage others. I often wonder why so many people struggle to give it and believe it is because they struggle to receive it.
DeleteLovely post, Brendan. Thank you for sharing your powerful testimonies of your life and achievements, evangelising and encouraging others. I have thoroughly enjoyed your writing and received encouragement. How can I encourage others? First, I read and comment on their blog posts and encourage through prayers, those who are weak to be 'strong'! Blessings.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Sophia. You are a true encourager and inspiration and have encouraged me more than you know. Bless you.
DeleteWell done, Brendon. I too left a Grammar School having seriously under-preformed, and in 1976. Well the summers of '75 and '76 were too inviting to stay in school - I preferred the beach when the tide was right. The real story was that I was closing in on giving my life over to Christ and my state of inner turmoil didn't help my academic performance! I've not had the confidence to reconnect with Old Langtonians - my old school - probably due to a lingering sense of embarrassment at my school record. You might just have encouraged me to think differently.
ReplyDeleteAh yes, the summer of '76—what a crazy time. We were both the same age then. You should reconnect just for the giggles. I had some very interesting comments from some on the FB group.
DeleteGreat post Brendan. It took me back. My maths teacher said I would end up in Woolworths. I too didn’t take school very seriously. And John, I also remember the summer of 76, heatwave. Camber sands. Hot Rods and the best music. Great times, living the dream.
DeleteThanks Derrice. We were young, foolish and happy. Oh yes, the music, I have a 70s playlist on my Spotify. I like to think that teachers no longer speak negatitive words over their students, but I wonder.
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