Imagine you're in a room full of people chatting... by SC Skillman
Imagine you're in a room full of people chatting, laughing and saying witty things to each other, all of them in huddles. People socialising at a cocktail party You feel everyone is cleverer than you and more confident than you. You're holding back, listening, shy. You're overawed by those around you, who all give the impression they're terribly confident, fun, popular. That was me, holding back and listening and feeling overwhelmed - all through my childhood, at school, at university, in the workplace, at parties and social gatherings. At university I went to see my personal tutor, and shared my feelings with him. During our conversation, he said something I've never forgotten. "In this life, you will find, by and large, that most people take you at Your Own Valuation of Yourself ." (Although, to be quite honest, I can think of several cases of people of whom this is not true, for instance, certain political leaders whom we currently see c...