How to Get Past What You Cannot Get Over by Peculiar Medinus

 

Today marks another Patriot's Day, a poignant commemoration of the souls lost in the tragic events of September 11, 2001. Many of us remember it vividly—loved ones who went to work never to return home. The pain lingers, and for many, the memories are still fresh. Despite the passage of twenty-two years, some of us remain ensnared by the grief of losing someone unexpectedly. Yet, there is a path forward—a way to get past what we cannot seem to get over. In this blog, we will explore how to turn painful memories into cherished ones, drawing inspiration from John F. Westfall’s profound book, Getting Past What You’ll Never Get Over. Whether you’ve faced the loss of a loved one or a significant setback, this blog aims to offer solace and strategies to transform pain into hope, especially on this day of remembrance.

The morning of September 11, 2001, changed countless lives. Families were suddenly torn apart, and the world watched in horror as the events unfolded. For many, the memories of that day are etched into their minds forever. But while we remember, it's crucial to find ways to move forward. Holding onto the good moments shared with those we've lost can be a powerful way to heal. By focusing on the positive memories, we can begin to shift our perspective and find a sense of peace amidst the pain.

Grief is a powerful emotion that can either paralyse or propel us forward. It's natural to feel overwhelmed, but it's essential to find ways to channel that grief into something constructive. Whether it's through art, writing, or another creative outlet, expressing your emotions can help you process your feelings and find strength in your pain.

Every loss brings with it a unique set of lessons. Reflecting on these lessons can provide valuable insights and help us grow as individuals. Consider what your loss has taught you about resilience, love, and the fragility of life. By acknowledging these lessons, you can turn a painful experience into a source of wisdom and personal growth.

One of the most comforting aspects of dealing with loss is knowing that you are not alone. As Christians, we have God as our anchor. We can also surround ourselves with a supportive network of friends, family, and community members who understand our pain. Sharing experiences and listening to others can create a sense of solidarity and provide much-needed comfort during difficult times.

It's important to look forward to the future. Finding hope in new beginnings can be a powerful way to move past what you cannot get over. Set new goals, pursue new hobbies, and allow yourself to dream again. By focusing on the possibilities ahead, you can begin to rebuild your life. Prayer is a crucial step towards healing.

Many people find solace in turning their pain into purpose. Whether it's through volunteering, advocacy, or supporting others going through similar experiences, finding a way to give back can be incredibly therapeutic. By helping others, you can find a sense of meaning and fulfilment that honours your loss and creates a positive impact.

Taking care of yourself is vital when navigating through grief. Ensure you are eating well and getting enough rest. Self-care is not selfish; it's a necessary part of the healing process. By prioritising your well-being, you can build the resilience needed to move forward.

Writing can be a powerful tool for processing emotions and reflecting on your experiences. Consider keeping a journal to document your thoughts, feelings, and memories. This practice can provide an outlet for your grief and help you gain clarity and perspective over time. Reflecting on your writing can also reveal patterns and insights that aid in your healing journey.

Professional support is necessary to navigate the complexities of grief. Don't hesitate to seek therapy or counselling if you feel overwhelmed. A trained professional can provide valuable guidance and coping strategies tailored to your unique situation. Remember, asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

On this Patriot's Day, I pay tribute to everyone affected by the 9/11 attacks. We cannot equate the loss of lives to any other setback, but the principle of finding strength in adversity and hope in the future remains the same. Life is filled with challenges and losses that can feel insurmountable. Yet, with the right attitude and support, it is possible to move past what we cannot get over. By leaning on God, turning our pain into purpose, and focusing on self-care, we can build a future filled with hope and resilience. If you find yourself struggling, remember that help is available. Pray, read your Bible, reach out to a therapist, join a support group, or simply talk to a trusted friend.